Saturday, December 11, 2021
Monday, May 31, 2021
What has blown my mind about the whole Derrick Jackson situation is the willingness of conscious people to ascribe any portion of blame to DaNaia Jackson for being cheated on. I have heard women and men clown her and denounce the way she dressed (in that Stand By Your Man hostage video). I have seen people say they would cheat too if their wife looked like that. People are equating her value or lack there of on her outward appearance. Never mind the fact that this man is a covert narcissist and is probably well aware that by his wife dressing that way it would garner him some modicum of sympathy from the black women he sells his books to. Mission accomplished.
People have been tying our value to perceived looks forever. The toxicity of visual valuation has long since sunken into our collective blood stream. I hope we can begin to wake up and relinquish this false method of valuation of human beings. People used (some still do) to tell women not to dress a certain way if we didn’t want to get raped. Today people are telling women to dress a certain way if we don’t want to get cheated on. Riddle me this, why did JayZ cheat on Beyoncé? That woman was walking around looking like a whole goddess and that didn’t stop him from sticking his penis in other women. Maybe we should stop ascribing any portion of responsibility to the women who are cheated on. Maybe we should give the whole responsibility to the cheating spouse.
If you want to respect and protect black women, start by not making us responsible for the behaviors of others who abuse and mistreat us.
Appearances can be deceiving and I think that may have been the point. Mr. Jackson is master of deception, he is presently working his magic (in multiple ways) by getting a large portion of his audience to look away and focus on something other than his deceptive, predatory, and toxic behaviors. He is so good at it that everyone is overlooking his narcissistic abuse of his wife and other women.
In the words of Derrick Jackson, Y’all let me know what you think in the comments.
Friday, March 19, 2021
Sunday, March 7, 2021
Yesterday I realized after a meditation on love that my ex destroyed my root chakra (figuratively speaking. You cannot destroy a Chakra but you sure can fuck it up). The root is the foundation. She always had to recalibrate me. After every big fight or break up, she wanted to have sex. She was solidifying the trauma bond at the very root of it all. Stability, Security, and Sensuality are all at the wheelhouse of the Root Chakra. Narcissists use sex as a weapon against their prey. It’s exactly how every narcissist gets in and demolishes the self esteem of their prey. If you destroy the foundation you get to rebuild it into whatever you want.
All narcissistic people unconsciously know to attack the root chakra. If they can destroy your foundation and trauma bond you with sex it’ll be extremely hard to walk away because they have become your new foundation unbeknownst to us. Goddamn. I feel like I am cracking the code vibrationally.
The key to keeping people safe from Narcs in the first place is protecting the root chakra.
Use any of the affirmations below for support of your foundation after or during a relationship with a Narcissist. In time it will help.
Monday, April 22, 2019
Friday, February 24, 2017
I've been practicing every day, but not nearly as long as I'd like to. With school being in full swing, having work and family life, it's quite easy to stumble off the path. When I cannot meditate as long as I like, I make sure that I practice the presence of God more. I make sure that I am practicing using affirmations more regularly. I take a little time out to think of and pray for those that are in need or for the loved ones of those who have died.
So while my meditation practice isn't currently as lengthy as I want it to be I still make time for cultivating my relationship with God and praying for others. I also remember that all of life is spiritual life. Spiritual life is not relegated to a day or time or place, it is everyday existence.
What are some things that you do to maintain balance, peace and focus in your spiritual life?
Thursday, February 23, 2017
I think that the Democratic Party lost due to a myriad of reasons. Hubris being one of them. The Democrats ran the most establishment candidate possible at a time when the country was clamoring for something far different than what we have ever had. The country was sick and tired of repeats and blasts from the past. We certainly didn't want another legacy candidate, that's what Hillary Clinton represented. People were wanting real change. That's why populist candidates saw the biggest rallies and had throngs of supporters.
Hillary Clinton racked up a lot of pledged delegates against Bernie Sanders' insurgent campaign, the problem is that the Dems refused to take the blinders off. Hillary Clinton won states that would NEVER go for a democrat. Their biggest mistake was to not look at Michigan as an outlier. She had my home state by a 40 point lead that she began with but Bernie won it anyway. People like to say that she won more votes, while not taking into account all of the states that have caucuses instead of ballot voting.
Part of what won Trump the presidency was the sheer ignorance and lack of understanding of the Democratic party and the racist, sexist, xenophobic past of America coming back to haunt itself. It really never went anywhere, it was just hidden. By my estimation Trump won with 50% died in wool Republicans, 25% Independents/Democrats, and 25% Basket of deplorable. The truth of the matter is that there are people in this country who voted for Trump who actually believe that slavery should never have ended. While it is untenable for most Americans that others believe something as despicable as this, it's true. There are those that voted for Obama but still voted for Trump because they wanted to see someone who was looking out for them. He talked a good game, but unfortunately those people believed in all the talk instead of looking at the life he's lived for decades. Nothing in his background says that he supports the little guy. In fact it says the opposite. But in this day and age of reality shows and everyone wanting to live the lifestyles of the rich and famous this was to be expected.
How do we move forward though?
Make your suggestion in the comments section. I think working together after this ill fated election could make a more positive impact than we could have ever imagined.
Friday, September 2, 2016
Thank you for those of you who have checked out my blog over the years. I'm coming back, hopefully what I post will be thought provoking and challenge you as life continues to challenge me to grow, expand, love, hurt, suffer, feel joy, feel frustrated experience a bit of bliss and do it all over again.
Tuesday, May 12, 2015
Ahkiba and I got a new puppy almost three weeks ago. Our hearts were broken when we got home from work and school today to find Gizmo barely moving and very sick. Please visit the GoFundMe page to see how you may be able to help Gizmo. Every little bit counts. Even $1 toward funding his surgery would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you in advance for helping our family!